I trust you

I believe I love you has lost its meaning..Especially in college.People find it very difficult to say sorry rather they say "But I love you naa..." .I confess I do it too.Its like saying " well since i love you..You have to forgive everything I say and do." Saying sorry its letting the other person have power over you.After he can choose not to forgive you.I have decided Im going to stop saying that.I love you is meant for special times when I truly mean it.Like when my grandma makes me soup every night, the trouble she goes through to make me curds..[Its tough]..Like when Hugo without asking just made a copy of all the notes she had bcas she knew I would need it...Like when some people realise Im down just by hearing me say Hello...These are special people and truly deserve a 'I LOVE YOU'

But frankly speaking...When it comes to friendship or even that matter romantic relationships,its not always the 'love yous' that matter..Its the other small things like 'I trust you' ; 'I believe you' ; 'I'll be there for you'.Trust , belief , standing up for another are some of the best compliments you can give someone else.I dont know if people realise this.People have grown so accustomed to being cheated and hurt, that they have forgotten to be vulnerable.

One of friends keeps asking me..How can you trust me? I do just because I do.I have offered to you my friendship, my trust ...You can do whatever you want with it.Break it and throw it away -It will hurt but your choice.Or take it and appreciate it or take it and return your friendship and trust..

Dont expect people to reciprocate your own feelings...They have their own emotions, beliefs etc.But dont judge the worth of you or what you are offering on the basis who didnt accept it.One of the analogies that my teacher used to give (and still gives) is that of a chocolate cake.You go give a person a chocolate cake and he refuses..Did the cake change? Did it become bad? Will no1 ever like chocolate cake again? NO.That one person at that particular time didnt WANT chocolate cake.Thats all there is to it.

18 comments:

  Proneat

25 February 2008 at 19:57

The last but one para...ws really smthing. sounded kewl.......
Well, nw ppl around u, who read dis post r gonna definitely trust u a lil more!

  Comfortably Numb

25 February 2008 at 20:50

He he ! Nice work! and yea people do such stuff!

well in reply to ur comment on my post "good-Bye" i would like to say that yea I know one must try and move on..But there are some people so special that you would wanna go the extra mile for them....And even I dont know whether Ive already covered that extra mile or that still remains

  Mohan Kumar

25 February 2008 at 20:54

Ya Nice 1

Trust everybody, but thyself most.



With cheers :)
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  Karthik

25 February 2008 at 22:16

Well, we are human after all. There's nothing wrong in expecting something back from your close friends. You are right. Expectations lead to disappointments. But not all the time

  Rashi V

25 February 2008 at 22:19

Thank You People :) for all the really nice comments..

@Karthik

Its ok to be disappointed...What Im saying is that dont base your self worth on what some1 else does/says

  Aravind

25 February 2008 at 22:37

in college kumaaran mohanlal uses it too much."i love you". before fighting n all

  saheli chatterjee

25 February 2008 at 22:37

really nice post! all the examples were so apt!

  gauravbrills

25 February 2008 at 22:37

a really emotional yet true notion you have put forward .Trust and Love are complimentary,though these are also momentary ,the moment is wonderful but the longevity of it is random.

  Comfortably Numb

25 February 2008 at 22:38

yea i agree but on the same note there are times when feelings are misinterpreted and you often end up screwing it when uve got thru the most tough part! And moreover loving oneself is right but there should be a line drawn between loving and being self centered or just caring for people for the heck of it!
yea for sure we can talk....add me if u use yahoo.... goodtogo_hi@yahoo.com

  $ U J @ T @

26 February 2008 at 19:54

it's something I would like to make myself remember all the time :)

  Pranay

26 February 2008 at 19:58

i entirely agree...
even in an romantic alliance, i dnt really think that saying 'i luv u' everyday is a necessity... it loses its charm eventually.

Your post really touched my heart... esp these lines:
"I love you is meant for special times when I truly mean it.Like when my grandma makes me soup every night....."

  MishtiZaa

27 February 2008 at 11:31

amazing insight! Its very ture. I wont say I love you has lost its meaning but then it has become very easily available commodity that is used everywhere when things are to mend. But i love you has a special feeling of gratitude moulded in it. If the gratitude is not there I love you sounds like someone singing a rock track w/o any bass guitar or so.
And yes I trust you holds way above importance than I love you in any relationship.
Great post.
Simply Awesome!!!!

  MishtiZaa

27 February 2008 at 11:32

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  manorath

1 March 2008 at 00:31

yeah even i can hear lots f i love yous said with a style f excuse me.. a nice job..

  suren

1 March 2008 at 07:22

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  suren

1 March 2008 at 07:22

:):)... wat else can i say ?? :)

  Andy

5 March 2008 at 13:40

Wonderful.

  reena...

23 March 2008 at 19:27

I trust you' ; 'I believe you' ; 'I'll be there for you'...these r d most amazing n soothing words u can ever hear/say..dun knw y bt really felt good aftr reading dis post..keep it up!