Love v/s Arranged

This is post is basically my 2 cents on the entire love v/s arranged marriage issue. I read it on a fellow blogger's post of how love and arranged marriages both have pitfalls. Obviously nothing is perfect. Neither love nor a relationship.

For me the difference between love and arranged marriage is the difference between practicality and idealism.

Love is ideal. It sees everything with rose-tinted glasses. Everything is perfect. Nothing is bad. He is cute. She is beautiful. Life is one happily ever after fairy tale.

An arranged marriage is the other end of continuum. It asks what will you provide for the family? Will you understand me? Will take care of my needs, my wants? What is your salary? Prospects?

Yeah, I know this is black and white. But look around you. How many couples in love survive college and the hard life ahead? How many couples getting into an arranged marriage can truly say they are in love like they were with their college sweethearts?

Sorry, maybe things around have made me a cynic. These wouldn't be my words a year back. Now, this is what I believe in.

In life, we can't get the best of both worlds but we can try. Give the love of your life some time to prove themselves. People change drastically when pushed into the hard life. Let them find themselves and then decide if you still love the person they have become. When deciding to marry a stranger, see if you can see yourself loving this person for the rest of your life.

I, for one, have been blessed that I can actually make this decision. Most people have to just go with what their parents decide. Sometimes, I wonder would it be better if I didn't have a choice?

6 comments:

  Charzz

26 March 2009 at 01:30

Somehow i think all f can relate to this..
Even m thinking to write something on this very soon..
N wast my take on this I wil tel u thn..n as far as the Question you raised is concerned..I wud say.. U r lucky YOU HVE the CHOICE..

  becky

26 March 2009 at 04:38

Hello.Im searching for Hindi speking people from india.Im assuming your from there and speek Hindi.I have a song on my blog page at the bottom a friend of mine made.I do not know the words.Could you please translate them for me to english.I know one word and that zulf,other than that nothing,LOLI would truly appreciate it! I have asked about 5 people no one has translated yet.I cant wait Im getting anxious.LOL.Here is my email,karizmaa_4u@yahoo.com,you may leave the translation of the song there.Thanks again, will be waiting to hear from you!

  Lancelot

26 March 2009 at 07:36

@ Rashi

do u think this is gonna work in India - where people is so engrossed with Caste and Religion??

  Chronicwriter

26 March 2009 at 10:44

its like this...

you dont know swimming....

and there is a well

1) you can jump in yourself
2)someone pushes you inside

there is no escape..

love& arranged marriages

www.chronicwriter.com

  I, Me and Myself

26 March 2009 at 18:59

i agree too rash...u r lucky u have a choice...but ya then as of a personal opinion i would love if people make this decision for me..

  Born Vagabond

30 March 2009 at 00:22

Its better to take life as it comes!! :)