Language and us

This post is a combination of a lot of things. A random chat with a friend about relationships, the prompt at Sunday Scribblings about "language", Jaky's post of which the 1st point was to understand people and a frustration-filled conversation with a friend in the morning.

We all know what happens when we want to say something and words don't seem to be our best friends. What is worse is when we don't realise the impact of what we say on others. So many times, I've reacted in ways that are unlike me and I wonder why. Sometimes, people say things that put others in a defensive mode.

Many of us seem not to realise that language too can put people in the fight or flight mode. Some people just get on our nerves with the way they speak. This style of speaking can be so detrimental for a relationship. Just imagine a person who is always put you on guard. How would you feel? Tired? Unable to keep up? Just wanting to run away.

When language is so powerful, why aren't we more careful in using it? We all can talk. And that is one of the markers of our humanity. Of our superiority over "lesser" animals. Then why not use it well? Why take it so much for granted? 

"You think that I don't even mean
A single word I say...
It's only words
And words are all I have
To take your heart away

Talk, in everlasting words
And dedicate them all, to me
And I will give you all my life
I'm here if you should call to me
You think that I don't even mean
a single word I say.."

- Words by Boyzone!



18 April 2009 at 06:19

am singing words now


18 April 2009 at 10:45

Am singing words now too :P

@chriz - is the gal next door listening to ya? try another song :P

  mysterious gal

18 April 2009 at 23:06

beautifully put
i m singing words too and i have always loved it :D


21 April 2009 at 10:47

thats my fav song !!